I have a busy toddler and a 9-month-old baby who always wants to be held. It’s getting harder to keep the little one happy when I have to attend to my 2-year-old. How can I juggle the two of them without someone always being upset?
We all knew to expect a demanding newborn when we signed up for baby #2, but what happens when that sleepy 8 pound bundle turns into 20 pounds of wiggly baby who wants to take up permanent residence sitting on your hip? Here are a few suggestions for keeping the little guy happy when you need a free set of hands.
Give him your full attention: When you are busy chasing after a toddler, your baby may want to be held because it’s the next best thing to your undivided attention. He’s happy to tag along, and you’re able to get lunches made and laundry folded. Instead, try setting aside opportunities during the day for one-on-one playtime with your baby. By fitting quality time together into your day, you can feel less badly about the times when you can’t be holding him.
Start small: Begin with short stretches of independent playtime when things are calm. Of course, there will be times where you have to hastily plunk him into the playpen and leave him to fuss while you sort out potty training and temper tantrums , but that’s just the plight of the second born! If you can start giving him short stretches of time on his play mat when things are relaxed, it will be easier to create a positive experience because it becomes a chosen activity and not something you have to do before your toddler starts colouring on the dining room wall.
Nanny Carrie’s Tip: If the little one is crying to be held, distract him with a toy or game to get him smiling again before picking him up. You won’t be reacting directly to his fussing, and he’ll learn to not always associate complaining with getting what he wants (good practice for the whining phase!)
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Love the pic! Your son looks like such a sweetie big brother. But, I’m sure he has his moments!
Thanks Samantha. He is an awesome big brother! But can be cheeky for sure!